Is Beauty In The Eye Of The Beholder?

A true bond of friendship is usually only possible between people of roughly equal status. This equality is demonstrated in many indirect ways, but it is reinforced in face-to-face encounters by a matching of the postures of relaxation or alertness. In this way the body transmits a silent message, saying: ‘See, I am just like you’; and this message is not only sent unconsciously but also understood in the same manner. The friends simply ‘feel right’ when they are together. Emotional Contagion

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Multitasking Damages Your Brain and Your Career, New Studies Suggest

If you’re prone to multitasking, this is not a habit you’ll want to indulge—it clearly slows you down and decreases the quality of your work. Even if it doesn’t cause brain damage, allowing yourself to multitask will fuel any existing difficulties you have with concentration, organization, and attention to detail. Multitasking in meetings and other social settings indicates low Self- and Social Awareness, two emotional intelligence (EQ) skills that are critical to success at work.

http://www.talentsmart.com/articles/Multitasking-Damages-Your-Brain-and-Your-Career,-New-Studies-Suggest-2102500909-p-1.html

attentiveness

Why instilling admiration for hard work rather than raw talent is the key to fostering a well-adjusted mind.

Being present, whether with children, with friends, or even with oneself, is always hard work. But isn’t this attentiveness — the feeling that someone is trying to think about us — something we want more than praise?  Stephen Grosz

Unhurried, she talked to the child, but more importantly she observed, she listened. She was present. Stephen Grosz

https://www.brainpickings.org/2013/05/23/stephen-grosz-examined-life/

Relationships that enable us to learn

The crucial relationships are often a part of groups that have particular importance to us. These relationships and groups give us a sense of identity, guide us as to what is appropriate and ‘good’ behavior, and provide feedback on our behavior. In sociology, they are called ‘reference groups’. The relationships create a ‘context’ within which we interpret our progress on desired changes and on the utility of new learning, and which contribute significant input to formulation of the Ideal In this sense, our relationships are with mediators, moderators, interpreters, sources of feedback, and sources of support and permission of change and learning. They may also be the most important source of protection from relapses or return to our earlier forms of behavior.